Grace Michaelson

Those Unhappy New Year’s Resolutions!




New Year’s feels like a fresh start. I know how you feel. A new lease on life. A new chance to start over. You’ve turned the page over and covered up the scribbled up page of 2015 and now you have this nice clean page labeled “2016” and suddenly you have this surge of energy and the first thing that pops into your head is all the things you want to change from that scribbled up page called “2015”. Oh, no, no, no, Girl… that’s the mistake you made from all the other scribbled up pages called 2015, 2014, 2013, 2012… Well, you get the picture. Those unhappy New Year’s resolutions cannot be the first thing you write on this beautiful new year you have in front of you. Take a deep diaphragmatic breath and step back from the page and let’s think about what would be the best thing to write first.

Hmmm… Let’s talk first about what a new year’s resolution is not. It’s not a new start. It’s not a new beginning. It’s not a new thought. If it were a new start, you wouldn’t have started those same resolutions last year.

A start denotes the idea that it was never tried before. It denotes the idea that you have been empowered. It denotes the idea that you are not trapped in a circular idea of insanity. There is a saying that goes like this: The definition of insanity is doing something over and over again expecting a different result.” Here’s a new definition for a new year’s resolution: Doing the same new year’s resolution over and over again expecting a different result.

A new beginning sounds like it’s the same as a fresh start, but I see it as more than a start. It goes on longer than just the start. It gives you the assurance that the start will continue. The beginning is something deep in your heart that says, “This is permanent. This is final. This is forever.” Let’s face it. We all make new year’s resolutions with the intent to break them. Then we feel miserable. Cross, scribble, or rip them off our year’s once beautifully white page and then our year’s page is tainted and not white anymore. Wouldn’t you rather put things on your page that is permanent and healthy? Something that will truly give you a healthy new beginning?

Finally, a new year’s resolution is not a new thought. This one is the most obvious. This year’s resolutions are the exact resolutions you made least year, aren’t they? And the one’s you made the year before? So obviously you need to come up with a way to empower yourself to do these things without making them resolutions. They are obviously things you want, or you wouldn’t make them fruitless wishes that never come true.

Now that we’ve burned up those unhappy resolutions before we ever made them, let’s look at our still happy beautiful year and think about what we’re going to write on our still beautiful clean sheet. Because obviously we need to start writing on it. We need to write down memories, both happy and sad, we need to write down feelings, both the “bad” ones and the “good” ones, we need to write down the thoughts, the confusing ones, the intelligent ones, the stupid ones, and the everyday ones, and we need to write down so much more. It’s so, so important, though, to start the year out writing down some strong words:

Here’s a few I thoughts for you:

I am a beautiful person

Whoever thinks differently, is missing out on a very special gift

The mirror misses all the greatest things about me

My soul/spirit needs to eat healthier than my body does

You get the picture, see if you can think of somethings to add to your 2016 page. Forget those unhappy resolutions. Be kind to yourself. Love life. Be joyful. Walk away from the toxic. Cling to what is good. Happy New Years!!

Philippians 4:8, 9B (NLT) “And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Then the God of peace will be with you.”