Last year I wrote a “feel good” piece that ended up being published in Argus Leader. My point of that article was the insanity brought on by creating resolutions that you know you’re going to break. I implored you to take a look at your beautiful page called 2016 and come up with truths to put on it that are healthy and strong, instead of weak resolutions that you’ll want to scribble away or tear off your year after you fail. How did you do?
Already my Facebook feed is filling up with posts about people getting excited about their new year, the plans they have, and the resolutions they are making. I’m just as tempted as the rest of you. Last night I was having a particularly discouraging night, so I poured out in my journal a bucket list of things I would love to see change in the new year. The thing is, I know better than to turn those wishes into resolutions because I know how disappointing it is to put my heart and soul into a resolution only to fail to make it come into being.
We can’t force changes into our lives, they have to happen naturally. Even if you don’t believe in God like I do, you have to believe in the practicality of the fact that your life is impacted by the people who surround you. If they don’t choose to change with you, then you’re life isn’t going to change easily. That leaves an interesting dynamic and choice right there. Do I choose contentment in the life I have now, or do I let change happen by moving on from relationships that keep me stagnate? Either choice may be a right one for you.
Resolutions simply don’t allow for healthy choices, in fact, they stunt your ability to make these natural choices. Resolutions cause sharp disappointments which bring choices up abruptly and stunt the ability for life to move forward. An “I can’t” attitude can move in, and instead of freedom to make good choices, you can be beset by fear that you will only make a bad choice again. After all the resolution was a bad choice, right? Why should you even allow the possibility of that disappointment in the first place?
I’m writing about broken resolutions and their ability to stunt choices before it can make any real changes in your life. I don’t know how you believe, or who you live and work with, but I know you can think about it and avoid those resolutions. Let change happen naturally. Have a wonderfully Happy New Year.